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The Question:
Dear Karen,
Before I met my boyfriend, he was in a serious relationship for several years. Obviously, it didn’t work out between them and both moved on. However, one thing that is lingering is a tattoo of her name on his chest. He knows he did a stupid thing by putting her name on his body but he thinks there is nothing he can do about it now.
The thing is, that tattoo makes me uncomfortable. I would love it if he got it removed and I told him just that. He’s being all weird about it now. He says it’ll cost a lot of money and he doesn’t want to go through all the pain.
Do you think my boyfriend should have the tattoo of his ex-girlfriend removed? Since he hasn’t done it, does that mean he’s still into her?
Kristin from Hyannis
Karen’s Answer:
Hi Kristin,
Just because the tattoo of his ex-girlfriend is still on his chest means nothing. It does not mean he is still into her. He just thinks he’s stuck with a tattoo. The question is, what does it mean if you ask him to get it removed and he refuses.
Maybe he really doesn’t want to endure the plain. Don’t read into it.
I do agree seeing another girls name on his chest is a bit unnerving, but I would wait until you’ve been seeing him longer and when/if you get engaged then revisit the issue with him.
You’ll have more leverage and he will probably be more willing to get it removed if he knows you’re the woman he’s going to marry.
Karen
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