Thursday mornings on the Karen and Ralphie morning show, Karen gives some personal advice. It’s ask Karen! From problems big and small, Karen gives her take on life, love, work and everything in between! If you’re interested in asking Karen a question, click here.
The Question
Dear Karen,
My son’s girlfriend posted a very nice saying on facebook about someday becoming a mother. It was very tastefully posted. Someone I did not know posted under her posting that he would be willing to contribute (his sperm) in order for her to become pregnant. I thought that was very distasteful… so I posted my feelings on the same thread. After a bit of bantering back and forth (nothing bad) I asked who he was and he said that he was an old work buddy. So, I posted “oh…ok” realizing he was just joking. Still I thought it was inappropriate.
As a result of all this my son is ticked off at me and called me childish and that I needed to apologize to his girlfriend. I have agreed to apologize but I still feel that I was not the one who was childish but rather the friend that posted the inappropriate comment.
Do YOU think it was childish of me to respond to this post?
NO names please!
Karen’s Answer
Dear Nameless,
I do agree the friends comment was tasteless. I don’t blame you for wanting to chime-in and defend your son’s girlfriend.
I do think though, you need to let your son fight his own facebook battles. In my opinion, you could have pointed the comment out to your son…tell him how you felt about it and then let him take it from there.
The other thing you could have done is sent the inappropriate friend a “private” facebook message that way your conversation is then just between the two of you.
In the future…you may want to stay off your son’s facebook page cause it’ll probably give you nothing but an anxiety attack!
For the record you sound like a wonderful mom that loves her son dearly!
Thanks for writing!
Karen
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